Dr Wayne Dyer once rightly said, I quote, "see the light in each other be and the light for each other". A small dose yet competent enough to cure the most contagious mental disorder.
To commence with, let's know what it means.
See the light in each other, a simple line of small words yet, subtle. See the light in each other conveys the message that even if a person has caused any pain to you.
Be it physical or emotional or mental pain that the person has caused to us, it is for our safety that we forgive that person wholeheartedly. The thing just doesn't stop here, again and again, we would recall the person with that person's malice towards us. But if we try and see the positive light in that convicted person, our mind would find a way to escape from the bitterness of our mind and heart. This would enable our minds to work in a different way and will help us to behave differently with the person.
This doesn't just end here the person behaviour will definitely change for us also. That positive behaviour of ours will give that person also to see the optimistic light in us.
It is the very same reaction that can be called an equal and opposite reaction or the third law of newton.
First, when we are bitter about the person, the other one is also. When we are optimistic about the person, and so the other person is. Sometimes there is a fair possibility that maybe we bond and love that person again for her/his positive light.
Pains have different definitions for everyone, and that's very variant too.
In different relationships, we suffer from different problems and traumas. Be it, a love relationship, a friend relationship, or a boss and an employee relationship. Not all are perfect, there are cracks and holes in every relationship. But somewhere down the line, we love that relationship and try to bind it as much as we can. Or if in some cases or sometimes, binding is not feasible, then not getting angry over the same matter wouldn't be of any use. It will only deteriorate us mentally or sometimes even physically. So the best way to relieve is to forgive and forget the person.
Pragati Sharma
Sadhu Vaswani International School for Girls